An original 100 part miniseries
When I started my Phd, I felt like I was on top of the world. I was literally this dancing pink girl. I had gotten into a good program, with people much more experienced than me, and I thought I was the shizzle.
But see that little speck? That smidgen is me now, cut loose in planets catapulted out of their orbits by a swirl of equations and tables that is statistics. I loathe it, always have. Is there a doctoral degree on earth that doesn’t involve statistics? Show it to me please, I will be happy to shift. In all seriousness though, in a short two months (that have felt like years), I have gone from thinking I know my trade, to I Know Nothing, and the realization that the world is big, and we are microscopic.
That’s my life there, drawn in a framework during a class on (you guessed it), frameworks! The Phd is trying to edge the baby out, but the baby doesn’t get pushed around easily, so he is holding on. The husband, not as tenacious as the baby, has gone off quietly in that tiny bubble of green in the corner, occupying himself with the very many things he likes to do. Gym, groceries, paying bills, hobbies, are all taking a backseat. Friends and family, which lets face it, we all need, hopefully will be around by the time I am done. And leisure? Hah!
I have loved it so far, honestly. The nerd in me—I was one of those kids who had a badge that said ‘a reader is a leader’ on my schoolbag—has embraced academia like you would a friend returned from war. Being at the library makes me intensely happy, there is something about the smell of books, the hum of fans, the quiet.
But I struggle with the guilt of leaving my 18 month old and going off everyday. It was different while I was working. But now, this degree is a privilege I feel, and something I am indulging in. And many times a day, when I think of that smiling little face, my stomach does a flip, and I question my decision. Is it fair to go off on my own pursuits when they grow up so quickly, and this time is so fleeting? I was perilously close to tears the other day when a colleague asked me admiringly “How do you do all this with a baby?” I wanted to sob out, “He is a good baby, and makes sacrifices for me, his terrible, terrible, mother.”
Thankfully, I didn’t.
I am also on the road to burnout. I walk in the jittery steps of a caffeine addict, my laptop clutched to me pretty much the same way I hold the baby, telling myself to slow down, take in the green that is the campus, and eat a lunch that is not 10 seconds long, while running to the train at 5 pm. I rationalize that even presidents have time to eat lunch, and I am no president. The husband (lets call him B and the baby A for future reference), says that one day, he is sure to come home and see me typing away on my laptop, only to discover that, like Jack Nicholson in The Shining, I was typing “All work and no play makes GG a dull person” over and over again, all along.
Not quite there yet, but I did spend time trying to come up with different permutations for the letter Phd, so not far either.
And there we are, trying the last one
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